Sometimes your crush doesn't feel for you, or care as much as you do for him or her. It's tempting to get sexual to make him/her more interested. Since he/she's your crush, you're fantasizing anyway, and it's better to have him/her want you sexually than not to want you at all, right?

Wrong. Getting involved sexually when you're not on the same page emotionally is the worst thing you can do. Having sex/messing around may be satisfying to him/her, and it may be fun for you, but you will also become more involved emotionally. You'll like him/her better and want a relationship more badly. He or she will enjoy the sexual activity for awhile, but then you'll have to go farther to keep his/her interest. Once you've gone all the way, it won't be too long before he/she loses interest and starts looking for someone else. You're left with a huge emotional commitment that isn't reciprocated. He or she walks away. Don't do this to yourself.

You can't make someone love you; you can only wait and try to find one who does. However, sex is not the way to look. Trying to find love through sex is like trying to find sunlight by digging a hole in the basement floor.

Find someone who really cares first; then consider sexual activity. Using sex as "bait" will only hook you, leaving the person free. Don't hurt yourself like this. You can find someone who truly loves you; you don't need to use your body to get affection. Look for someone who likes you first; find someone who respects you fully without sex as an option. Then you'll find love (for more about this, see What Is Love?).