Love
I am kind of "hooking up" with this boy that i have liked and been in love with for a couple of months now. This week we had winterbreak and he kept trying to hangout with me and stuff, which didnt workout bc we were both busy.Well that weeekend we had a sweet 16 but he thought i didnt want to get with him, which i obviously would have ( i have gotten with him a couple of times) well he was going to get with this girl who i dispise.My best friend is like in love with him too and she had already gotten with him and i thought they were done. Last night on newyears we were hooking up and holding hands and hugging and when the ball dropped he was my new years kiss, well he wanted to go back inside just us two but everyone was still outside and then we all went in and he was hitting on my BEST FRIEND whom he got with before her and was trying to get with her. well they did and my other best friend walked in and stoped them and he knew i was upset everyone did it ruined my night it just isnt fair that he does this all the time to me and i still like him alot, its bullshit and i told him i liked him last night and when we went to say goodbye to eachother i hugged him and i was like about to cry no joke and he didnt say anything and he would look at me and like i didnt know what to do because this time he really hurt me and all of his friends knew what he did was wrong and they all could tell i was upset with him and the situation i was placed in. But my real question is should i let him know he upset me? should i blow it off? ive been trying and all i can picture is us like looking like we were together and stuff i always try to not like him but i fall for him EVERYTIME I SEE HIM. should i move on? please give me feedback because my friends arent so helpful at times
You Should Definitely Tell Him How You Feel
If you're upset enough to write a page here on this website, I think it is definitely worth it to tell him how you feel.
But how do you tell him? Timing is critical. You need to do it at a time when you're both (relatively) alone, not rushed, and you're not angry at each other. Then you can start by saying, "You know, you really hurt me the other day..." and go from there.
Hopefully he listens to you and apologizes. If so, then as long as he doesn't keep hitting on your friends, things should be ok.
But if he doesn't apologize, or he won't listen, no matter how much you like him, you should move on. If he can't respect you, you'll only hurt yourself more if you are with him. Of course, you can't stop liking him-- you'll just have to wait for your feelings to pass-- but we all have crushes from time to time that are no good for us. It sucks, but that's life-- you deal with it and move on.
If you can't find a private time to talk to each other, try writing him a letter, or an e-mail. Take time to make sure you say exactly what you want, and after you finish writing, you might want to consider waiting a few hours and then looking over it again if possible.
I hope this helps.
-Jude