I think we are both confused

Well 3 months ago this kid broke up with me because he wasn't getting any from me. Afterward her wanted me back and missed me, at first I said no but a few times i was going to give him another chance but when ever that happened he would say forget it...two weeks later i start going out with this other kid who really liked me and was the sweetest and nicest boy i have meet, and yea i did have some feelings for him. we went out for a month, during that whole month i would talk to my ex and tell him in the future he might have a chance and stuff like that because he really wanted me back...sometimes i think i talked to him more then my bf. i lost feelings for the other one and broke up with him but before i broke up with him i told my ex i still had feelings for him, and he was so happy. when i broke up with my bf i told my ex to give it some time...well by the end of that week he wasn't as happy. he took me off his top friends on myspace and he started likeing this girl he works with. for the next month and a half i wasn't on his top friends but he would say he likes me and wants to see me but he likes her. he would also say he liked me but didnt want a gf over the summer he said at the end of the summer we would go back out and stuff like that. at one point he said he didnt want to go out with me for another year because he wanted to go to prom with me and couldnt keep a gf for 2 years. the thing is everything he says is a lie. the past week he texted me saying he lost feelings for me and he liked someone else. he finaly put me on his top friends as number 8 but thats about it. on everything of his it says thanking god i met her, or <3 her <3. he told me he went to the beach with her recently that day i went on her myspace and it said she was in costa rica for another 4 days. just 2 days ago i was having some other problems and he said "even though we aren't going out or anything, you no i will always be here for you" he has his nice times but other times he can be a pain, his family loved me and still does, his mom called him stupid for doing that and for ignoring some of my txts. i keep try and try but it so hard to get over him let alone not talk to him, i am going to have to cheer for him during football next month ill never get away from him, i want him back in my heart but my head doesnt. i need so much help on what to do, i cant do it on my own =(((((

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Slow down, and get away from this guy.

The question you have to ask yourself is: do you really want this guy back in your heart? Even if it means so much heartache?

You had a boyfriend who was sweet and kind and you ditched him for a guy who lies to you all the time... Are you sure this is really your heart talking to you?

He obviously can't make up his mind. But I think you can make up yours. And the choice is: live with liking him, and the stress it creates, or move on.

In your case, I think it's best to move on. Sure, you'll still see him. You will probably even have little crushes on him from time to time. But don't think about that.

You'll eventually find other guys who you like more, and treat you better. But to find those guys, you have to get away from him, first.

Jude | Wed, 07/30/2008 - 20:21