Guys are only interested in girls that have big boobs and a tight butt. Girls only want guys that play at least three sports, and are good at all of them. Guys never care about deep conversation, and they certainly don't have any non-superficial feelings. Girls have to wear makeup to be attractive.

Who makes up this crap?

There are a lot of superficial people, sure. But what about the rest of us?

It's hard to find the right person for you, but you can make the search easier on yourself. It hinges on where you choose to look.

Pop quiz: you're looking for the perfect match. Do you think he or she is more likely found:
A. at a dance, where you "hook up" for a few hours and exchange numbers
B. falling out of the sky, at just the right moment
C. in a friend, someone you've known for awhile and grown to care for

You *could* find the perfect person in all three of the above situations (in my case, it was B). It's incredibly rare, but possible, that the one you hook up with for a one-night stand ends up being your soul mate. It's even rarer, though still possible, for someone to parachute into your life with a proposal. But it's a lot more likely you fall in love with a friend, or at least someone you know well.

Unfortunately in romance, doing all the right things is no guarantee of success. Love is unpredictable. But that means you have to decide what you want. Don't settle for less.

On the other hand, you can look too hard for the "perfect" person. Making lists of everything you want is-- let's face it-- pretty immature. Think about what you really want-- honesty, loyalty a good body-- and take the time to figure out what that means for you. When should you be honest in a relationship, and when shouldn't you? The questions apply to you as much as to your partner.

If you're still having trouble with perfection, think of it this way: who are you as a person? Are you this total dreamboat, perfect in every way? Your body, your personality, your character-- all without a single flaw?

No, of course not. So don't expect your date to be perfect either. But are you honest, caring, and sincere? Then look for someone who's honest, caring, and sincere. Opposites attract initially, but those who feel the same on many things stay together a lot longer.

There is no magic potion to make people fall in love-- and I assumed when I wrote this article that you were actually looking for a serious relationship, not just a casual fling. In fact, through this whole website I assume your goal is to find someone you love and care about, who loves and cares about you.

If you're just looking for something casual and carefree, the rules are different. You don't have to try as hard. You can be fake and get away with it. But in the end, a few weeks later, you're left with less than what you started with.

A real romance keeps giving back in memories long after you and your partner have said goodbye.

No, true love isn't easy to find, and it takes a long time. Love takes a long time. Rome wasn't built in a day. And it isn't easy to "find yourself", either-- it's a lifelong process. However, if you work at it, and you stay true to your own heart, you can find the one who likes you for you.