When you're little you get silly; you whisper to your friends you "like" this boy or girl and tell them not to tell anyone-- later, when one of your friends inevitably tells the class, you blush and try to deny it.
When you're in your teens it's much the same, except now you're too embarrassed to be silly and you really do get angry with your friend for telling.
But crushes are a playful thing; they are supposed to be silly. Don't take them too seriously.
Together, junior high and high school give you a good six (or seven) years to start getting to know yourself. It is a time where you can experiment with who you are, what you like, and what you do. You have a lot of freedoms, one being you can like whoever you want-- and, if you're like most of us, you'll have quite a few crushes before your schooling ends. After all, crushing on different people is part of growing up. You're learning what you like (and don't). It's natural to have feelings for all sorts of characters.
However, just because you have feeling doesn't mean you should act on it. We have many feelings in life that shouldn't be acted on. If you're angry and you feel like killing someone, we all know we shouldn't really kill them. Of course, love isn't murder-- usually, we hope :) Sometimes, though, we forget that just because you get really horny, or really lonely, you don't actually need someone-- and having that someone will not necessarily cure your problem.
So there's someone you've been crushing on for quite some time. You have a feeling the person might like you, but you're not sure. You might be waiting for them to ask you out. But why wait? Just ask yourself!
Many people are shy-- chances are, you and your crush are both in the same situation. You've given some signs; you've noticed some signs. But maybe the other person isn't catching on. It's time to speak up.
Of course, it's hard to take that first step. You have to ask yourself: is it worth the risk? Only you can answer that.
It's especially hard when it's someone you've been friends with for a long time. You don't want to ruin the friendship. And if you ask the person out, well, things could go wrong. But what's the worst that could happen? If you've been friends for a long time, it's very rare to completely stop being friends because-- what? you like the other person. And of course, if the other person has feelings, too... Well, it could be quite a great combination.
How do you ask? It can be dramatic; it can be simple. Remember though-- less is often more. If you plan too hard you're only going to be disappointed. Just do what you're comfortable with. If you're too embarrassed, or don't trust your voice, write a note-- but give it in person (you don't have to stay around for it to be read, though). Don't call or use e-mail, though; it's too impersonal.
Popping the question can be scary, but if you already know the person-- and you have taken time to get to know your crush, right?-- you should have some idea of whether your feelings are reciprocated. Now it's time to confirm.
At least start a conversation-- that's not too hard. Say "Hi", ask how the day is going-- if you can't think of anything, ask for help with your homework! Just do something-- start talking-- and take your time.
You may find someone you thought was really cute is actually very disagreable. But that's good-- you've saved yourself a lot of trouble! You didn't get rejected; you don't have any emotional pain-- and, now that you've approached your crush and realized he/she's not what you thought, your feelings will probably go away pretty quick.
Do you want to look back on life and wonder "What could have been?" Of course not! If you're good friends, ask away, and if not, get to know the person better-- but don't just sit there!
It can be hard to tell if your crush likes you. Most people are shy. Before you try to find out, however, ask yourself: "Is this a relationship I want to be in?"
It makes sense to want to go somewhere before you get in the car and start driving. Make sure this relationship will make you happy. Don't date someone just because all your friends are dating someone. Don't do it because someone else says you should; if you don't feel attracted to the person now, those feelings probably won't develop later. Don't do it to get revenge; you'll only end up hurting yourself. Be true to your own heart.
Do you see yourself with your crush in the future? Do you want a future with this person? If you don't, should you really be dating him or her?
Today "serious" relationships have a bad reputation as sterile, formal situations that aren't fun at all. But a "serious" relationship with someone you love can be quite a lot of fun. It's serious not as in marriage, but as in serious about each other-- enough to confide in one another your hopes and fears, your dreams and your disappointments.
Of course, thinking long-term, be careful not to get carried away. Don't wrap yourself so tightly you can't unwind when it's all said and done.
That said, if you're serious about dating but don't know if he or she likes you, there is a list of signs that can help you tell.
First, remember no list is comprehensive. You have to use your brain. Look at the cues he or she gives you, and, if you know him or her well enough, you should be able to tell at least partly what he/she is thinking. Does
it add up?
One warning: do NOT have your friends ask if he or she likes you.
This is the absolute worst thing you can do. First, it shows
you are a coward. NO ONE likes a coward. If you don't care enough
to ask the person yourself, you don't really care that much--
that's what he or she will think. Second, he/she won't tell your friends the
truth anyway. Save
yourself the trouble and ask on your own.
Hopefully now you have some idea whether he or she likes you or not,
although you might be confused if you're very close friends, and in
any case you're still probably wondering how to know if the person likes
you for sure. Well, you're in luck-- there is one surefire
way to tell if your crush likes you, and it works every time.